JUST JANE: Agony aunt Jane O’Gorman is dealing with a new issue from a concerned Daily Star reader. The woman is worried about her bloke after claims he keeps exposing himself in public

Their neighbour complains the bloke keeps exposing himself(Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

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Is the neighbour overly sensitive or is she right?(Image: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Is my bloke a flasher?

Is my man a flasher? Our neighbour over the back keeps complaining to me about him pressing himself up against our bedroom window and waving his manhood about.

He says she’s “round the bend”. Is she? There’s no denying he enjoys being naked. At parties, he’s the guy who drinks too much and strips off. He relies on me to bundle him up and shove him in the car.

I work in a factory during the day while he works from home. I’m terrified about him getting himself into trouble. This neighbour is nosey parker, but what if she’s telling the truth and he’s deliberately provoking her out of devilment, boredom or sheer kinkiness?

JANE SAYS: Your guy is playing a very silly game. Flashing is no joke.

According to police, indecent exposure (legally called just “exposure” and sometimes known as “flashing”) is when someone deliberately exposes their genitals to frighten or upset someone else.

Men and women can both commit indecent exposure. It can happen in public or in private.

Your guy may well be bored and think it “funny” to flash at your neighbour, but she’d be within her rights to report him online (police.uk), by calling 101, or dropping into a police station.

If she felt the situation was getting heated, then she might even call 999. Does he want that? Talk to him and find out what he’s playing at. Does he understand the seriousness of this situation?

Do not allow him to drag you down with him. Don’t tolerate any nonsense that is going to besmirch your good name.

Girlfriend says sex hurts too much

My girlfriend and I have never had full intercourse because she says it hurts too much.

She’s 20 and I’m 24. I’ve had several other lovers, but she’s not prepared to open up about her sexual history. She could be a virgin for all I know.

We’ve tried taking things slow. We’ve tried lubricants, massage and different positions but nothing works.

I’ve never had any problems, so I don’t think there is anything wrong with me. I like her a lot and hate to see her upset. I long for us to be together. She rants that her body is useless for letting her down.

How do we fix this?

She says sex is too painful(Image: Getty Images)

JANE SAYS: It’s vital that your girl gets to a doctor and asks for a thorough examination and diagnosis.

She cannot allow herself to be fobbed off. Is there someone who could go with her? She’s missing out on so much and deserves love and affection.

It could be that she’s not sufficiently aroused or allergic to the lubricants you’re using. If she’s suffering from a condition such as vaginismus, her GP will be able to advise and support her in getting the treatment she needs.

Partner just wants to be with my mate

My girlfriend of five years has been obsessed with my best mate since the age of 16. She’d jump into bed with him in a heartbeat if he invited her to.

I know she’s only with me to stay close in case he becomes free. I love her. Why aren’t I good enough?

JANE SAYS: Why waste time on someone who doesn’t appreciate you? Your girl insults you every time she eyes up your pal.

She’s a user so let her go. From the sounds of things he’s not interested in her – and never will be – so she could face a lonely future.

But can she explain why she’s so fixated? Can she wean herself off him?



By staronline@reachplc.com (Jane O’Gorman)

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